“If you knew then what you know now, would you still have married me?” My husband has asked that question more than once during the last 20 years of marriage. It usually comes up right after we’ve gotten some new and “interesting” twist in life that will mean significant changes in our lives.
My answer never changes: “Absolutely!”
He asked it again the other day after we got home from the hospital and I’ve been thinking about it ever since. My answer is still the same—that’s not what has me preoccupied with the question. What has me thinking about it is the premise behind the question: Is what we’re going to have to deal with now enough to change your mind about the major choices we’ve made in the past?
My answer is still the same. I can say that with confidence because I didn’t make the decision to marry this man lightly…or on my own. I’ve told him more than once that God was SO clear that I was to marry HIM that I was just glad I liked him! (grin) Fortunately for me, I more than “liked” him. I still do.
There is a comfort in knowing that God is involved in our decisions in life. When we follow God’s path it doesn’t mean that life will be totally easy. On the contrary, we’re actually told the opposite!
“I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous! I have conquered the world.” John 16:33 (HCSB, 2009)
Throughout our courtship and into our marriage, we’ve taken the decision-making process very seriously. We take it so seriously that we take it to God. In fact, our most recurring prayer is, “God please make the answer so clear that we can’t even be stupid and miss it!” And it works.
God wants His people to be ready to follow His instructions no matter what they are. It is a matter of faith. It is a matter of trust…and when you know that your faith is in Someone who is actually trustworthy…well, that makes all the difference in the world. If you’re following the One who MADE the plan and knows the outcome, then your chances of success are increased exponentially!
If you’re interested in living a life where you can answer the “If you knew then what you know now…” questions with assurance, make sure you consult the One with all of the answers before you make your decisions. Now you’ve been told how …and now you know what you know now. (grin)