I’ve been too busy to write anything for weeks now. That’s been tough on me. Writing helps me process and if there was ever a time when I’ve needed to process things, it has been the past month or so. For some reason, this move has me more emotional than I had ever expected. I’ve been excited about returning to GA and I’m looking forward to all that God has there for us, but the process of actually getting there has been far more arduous than I had anticipated. I’ve written volumes in my head as I’ve hauled belongings and paperwork through the traffic patterns of various southern towns and, while some of it was absolutely brilliant—even if I say so myself! (grin)—there are other portions of my mental volume that are best left unwritten…and even un-thought.
I’m learning a lot these days. Some of it is really simple and some of it seems simple, but really isn’t. There have been so many lessons that I’ve started a list:
1—It is possible to become annoyed with your blessings.
Before you chuckle too loudly over that one, think about the last time your dog wanted to play while you had your arms full of groceries or the last time a family member kept asking you where you wanted them to put things while you were trying to accomplish 13 other things all at once because you had a deadline…and you suddenly had a very clear picture of where you’d like them to put things.
The thing to remember, however, is that you are blessed. You have people around you who add joy and comfort and love and a whole host of other things…just not all the time. The other thing you need to remember is that you’re in the very same category. You’re a blessing, too—just not all the time. Remember to cut everyone some slack during times of extreme stress. That includes you, too.
2—It is possible to forget your home training.
Yes, manners are important. That will never change. They can make you or break you and you must remember that just because there are people out there who apparently never got any home training does not mean that you’re allowed to behave as though you are one of those people. Make your mama proud.
3—It is very important to think carefully about what you agree to do before you agree to do it.
Leaving people in the lurch is never a good idea. Although it may be unavoidable—if communications have been less than clear or expectations aren’t clearly defined by both parties—simply deciding that what you’ve agreed to do is inconvenient isn’t a good enough reason to shirk your duties. There’s a reason that Scripture says for us to let our yes be yes and our no be no. This is important whether or not you’re in the middle of a move.
4—You can’t make someone buy your house when it is for sale.
Honestly, you can’t even make them look at it! What you can do is get is market-ready and show-ready and leave it all up to God. When you’ve done all you can do…rest. There will always be something else to be done, but you can’t tie yourself in a knot over all the things you can’t do–like keeping the leaves out of the yard during an autumn wind storm while you’re out of town. (ask me how I know this…)
5—You can’t make the perfect house appear in the location you want and at the price you want to pay.
That might seem like a no-brainer, but it really isn’t. Expectations are high and what should be a good thing can feel like anything but that when you’re on the hunt for the perfect place. (So far, my favorite places have been…in a flood plain, right in front of a railroad, next to a commercial/manufacturing area and in foreclosure with a recalcitrant tenant, so I’m really learning this one the hard way!) Be realistic about what you’re asking for…and don’t forget that God is still in the miracle business.
(And keep #2 and #3 in mind when you’re dealing with realtors and bankers…and store clerks and waitresses and people on the interstate and…)