Day 30!!–NCN2016

34777“NCN has been so much better this year. Can’t say I haven’t whined at times but the Holy Spirit has used the exercise to at the very least make me aware. Can’t believe tomorrow is the last day I’ll actually pen the words, no acronym I needed to write it out to live it out!!, on my daily to-do list. Thank you for starting and continuing NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER! Looking forward to next year. I love you.”

These were the words that came to me yesterday from my lovely cousin Leigh. I wasn’t surprised by them. She’s always encouraging and I loved that she shared this spontaneously. It DID, however, cause me to prompt some responses from a few others that I knew had made the NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER journey with us by sending the following:  what’s your evaluation of NCN and how you observed it/what did you learn? 

Here is a sampling of what I received in response:

“I honestly think some people are complainers by nature. And I might be one of them!  This has been a great tool for bringing that awareness to me! Seriously…my husband…doesn’t complain. In fact, he rarely says much. LOL. I find this personality-flaw cruel and unfair.

And during the first 5 minutes of breakfast I might have been “explaining” my use of said husband’s Fitbit charger cord and all the reasons mine was unavailable to me…when he sweetly asked, ‘Is it still November?’

Wow.”

 

“…I have to admit I wasn’t as diligent as I should have been toward the middle to end of month. So much going on I fall back into bad habits. I will say, however, that my priest’s homily Sunday evening revved me up again. He spoke about the beginning of the advent season and how we should all make an effort to honor the season and prepare for Christs birth. He talked about how small efforts every day add up and put us on the right track. Made my mind up then to make more of an effort to be positive and take NCN into December. Kind of my way of making up for all of the Days timeI messed up in November!”

 

“First answer: I refuse to answer the question on the grounds that it might incriminate me.

Second answer: while I wasn’t very successful, NCN and your blogs brought me back to the right head space, at least for a few moments.

Third answer: I’ll catch up with you in December.”

I love it! See! I have something to anticipate! (grin)

I chose these responses deliberately because they all have a theme. In fact, it might as well have been the theme for the entire challenge: NO ONE is going to do NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER perfectly! That’s not a complaint. It’s a fact…and I’m more than ok about that. I knew going in that this would be a challenge and the whole point of a challenge is to IMPROVE a performance.

I agree with Leigh. It WAS easier for me this year, but I’ve spent the past 11 months trying to keep it going from the last NCN, so that was to be expected. In some ways, it was also more difficult because of all that was going on politically, but I thought that just made it better in some ways, as well.

One of my friends who responded above also sent me an article the other day about a woman who had blogged about trying not to complain for a whole day. I chuckled. Apparently, we are over-achievers, and yet I still applaud the effort to reduce anyone’s “complaint footprint” on this earth! It is a worthy goal.

As we come to the end of our challenge–don’t give up! We still have this one last official day of NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER to conquer! I hope that we will ALL be conscious going forward about reducing our own complaint footprint in our respective environments. Thank you for sharing this challenge with me, for sending me your texts and emails about your successes and your “almost made its” along with your complete melt-down failures. In every single case, you challenged me and encouraged me to do better and know that I was not alone in my attempts to get it right–along with giving me good company in which to repent and try again when I got it wrong.

You have blessed me and I am grateful. I have NO COMPLAINTS about my companions in this challenge for you are a valiant lot and I’m proud to know you–even those I’ve not yet met.

I can’t wait to see how you make this world a better place!

Grace and Peace! (and NO COMPLAINTS!!)

Day 29–NCN2016

I went to sleep with news of wildfires causing evacuations in the mountains and woke up to the sounds of rain. Answered prayers.

As I checked my phone for messages and found the one that said another pay period had just been completed, I remembered that just one year ago that was an email that wouldn’t have come because there was no job. Answered prayers.

The news out of Ohio State University yesterday said people were injured and their futures were not yet clear. This morning I read that all expected to make a recovery. Answered prayers.

My phone pings regularly with reminders throughout the day to pray for this person and that one, for this situation, and for our nation. I am still waiting for some of those answers to make their way into our world.

Today, as we head into the last two days of NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER, I am reminded that there are a lot of things that need to be changed in our world. I am reminded that there is more work to be done in areas both political and personal. There is room for change and, yes, a desperate need for it in many areas.

I am also reminded of answered prayers. Of how God has provided. Of how things used to be and how far we’ve come. Of progress made and of relationships that are in my life as a result of those changes. I am grateful.

Yes, I am grateful…and also convicted. How often have I complained instead of praying? How long have I ignored instead of helping? I’ve found that my life walk tends to correspond to my prayer life. (ouch.) How can I expect God to respond when I remain in neutral? If I am to change the world where I live, what am I to do next? How can I take this discipline of watching my words and curtailing my complaints and move forward toward the peace I want for the relationships I’m in and the world where I reside?

I cannot change it all, but I CAN PRAY–and I CAN put hands and feet to those prayers where they intersect with where I am today. I can choose to be kind. I can choose to smile first. I can offer to help. I can be intentional. I can continue to incorporate NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER into the other 11 months of the year and use my words to build up rather than destroy. I can push past my own comfort barriers and look to the needs of others.

What can YOU do where you are? What prayers will you pray? What words will you use? What actions will you take and what difference will you make where you live?

We will never make changes in the world that we aren’t willing to make within our own hearts first. Don’t be discouraged by that “small start” and don’t ignore the importance of it! If we each make and then model that choice of personal responsibility for our words and deeds, the whole whole world would change…and some of our prayers would be answered a lot sooner than we might think. It’s easier to pray for “the other guy” to change, isn’t it? That way we don’t have to think about how we might be contributing to the problem instead of being part of the solution. (again, ouch.)14804222571921199874857.jpg

There’s a small sticky note over my kitchen sink that says, “If all your prayers were answered, would it change the world or just yours?” It’s my reminder to pray larger prayers…to become a person of influence and to be ready to change the world right where I am, first, by praying while I go about even the most mundane of tasks and, second, to be God’s representative out in the world as I leave my home. (now there’s a job for us!)

We’ve made a good start toward positive change in the world this month by participating in NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER! Now, whatever shall we do next? (smile) Just something to think about…while you continue to curtail those complaints for the next two days…

Grace and Peace! (and NO COMPLAINTS!)

 

Day 28–NCN2016

14803374006631278927256Welcome to your post-Thanksgiving-break Monday when we return to our regularly scheduled programming…er…lives!!! Aren’t you excited?! (grin)

It’s early and yet I’ve already seen several memes and videos about how much people are dreading this day! In fact, they started posting some of them yesterday…as if they couldn’t get their dread in fast enough?!

Perhaps it is done mostly tongue-in-cheek, but these words still have power, so your challenge for today is to start YOUR week off on a positive note and finish this challenge strong! Only 3 more days remain in NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER! If that isn’t reason to celebrate, I’m not sure what is! (ha!)

Take a few moments today and make a list of your 3 favorite memories from the weekend. Post a photo or write a journal entry and place it where you can see it as a reminder of all you’ve had to be thankful for this season.14803376379641033919393

Next, make a list of 3 things that you’re looking forward to as we enter into the month of December and place that nearby, as well. It doesn’t have to be fancy. Scribbles on a post-it note will work just fine!

The whole point is to be reminded of the things that have brought us joy and also have a sense of anticipation about what is yet to come. It’s hard to be negative when you’re surrounded by good memories and fun plans for the future!

Give it a shot! There’s nothing to lose but your post-Thanksgiving-break Monday blues!

Grace and Peace! (and NO COMPLAINTS!)

(By the way, I’m celebrating a new blog domain for this blog today! You can still find me at quietambitions.wordpress.com AND you can find me at quietambitions.quietambitions.blog now, as well! You still get the same post, it’s just a nerdy-blogger-fun thing for me! Feel free to shout or share or dance right along with me!)

 

Day 23–NCN2016

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and as much as I would love to think that this blog would play a major part in a world-wide celebration of it (grin), I am realistic enough to know that it won’t–and smart enough to be grateful that we will ALL have more to do than write or wait to read a blog post over the next few days.

This is a time for family and friends and food and football (LOL! A lot of my favorite things start with the letter “F”!) and lots and lots of gratitude for all the
blessings we have–those we know about AND those not yet in evidence. I plan to  rejoice and spend some time telling God “THANK YOU!!!” even though this will be the first time ever that we’ve celebrated Thanksgiving without traveling to see family. We are looking forward to a quiet restful time together here at home. I pray that wherever you find yourself and regardless of how your plans unfold, you will be full of gratitude and know that you are loved by God in amazing ways.

Each year since I began the blog,grandmother hodum thanksgiving poem I have 1122160901shared the following poem. My Grandmother Hodum used to recite it for us each year as we gathered at her house and I simply can’t imagine Thanksgiving without it. I still miss her terribly even after all these years. I treasure the copied words in her handwriting–and I hear her voice in my head as I read it every time– but I know you can’t really have the benefit of that. (and I really hate that for you! She was wonderful!) It is difficult to read her handwriting if you don’t already know the words, so I’m also sharing them below.

“Thanksgiving Dinner”

I don’t believe in eating much

of turkey, pumpkin pie and such.

It make me dream bad dreams at night

and then, besides, it’s not polite.

So I’m not going to stuff and stuff

and act like I can’t get enough.

For me a turkey leg will do

with just a slice of breast or two,

then some liver, gizzard, and a wing,

Lots of dressing, that’s the thing!

Mashed potatoes to make me grow

Squash and cabbages, they’re fine, you know,

And I must have some cranberries, too,

And layer cake–two pieces will do.

Then of pumpkin pie so yellow–

One piece, because I’m a little fellow.

With nuts and apples I shall quit

and not ask for another bit.

For it isn’t good the doctors say

To eat too much on Thanksgiving Day!

See you in a few days! And until then, remember this: Moderation in all things (grin!) and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!

Grace and Peace! (and NO COMPLAINTS!)

Day 22–NCN2016

As I’ve prepared to write the blog posts this month, I’ve read research about how complaining affects our brains and thought patterns, our health, the people around us, and a LOT of people’s opinions about it. There are quotes and videos, books and memes all over the internet. Resources are seemingly endless on this subject because, well, sometimes the complaints apparently seem so, as well.

Most of the recommendations in these resources, however, can be adequately summed up in just a few words, like: “Don’t do it!”  and “Stop!”  and “This is not a healthy life choice!” There are all kinds of different reasons behind each article, book, or quote, but this one little quote seemed to sum it up best for me:

“The hammer never complains of the noise.”  ~Marty Rubin

I love that! In fact, I stopped looking for quotes after I saw that one. It is, to me, the epitome of what this challenge is all about. If we are to really make a difference with this challenge, we’ll need to do more than just watch what we say.

We need to become agents of change and people of action. See something wrong? Make it right. Don’t like the way it’s done? Speak up with a solution or, at the very least, open the door for a conversation about how to improve it!

We all have our pet peeves. One of mine is negativity/ingratitude. One of my husband’s is to complain without posing a solution. To pose a solution, you have to look past the irritation and think for yourself instead of about yourself. It means you become the hammer.

Those who are busy working on it rarely have time to complain about it.

 

Which one are you: the hammer or the noise?img_1583

Think about that as we go through these last few days of NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER. Make your time in this challenge count for more than one month out of the year. Become a person of influence! Change the world where you live…for the better…and for all of us.

Grace and Peace! (and NO COMPLAINTS!)

 

Day 21–NCN2016

0910160758a-1I found a small sprig earlier in the year while I was cleaning out the back flower beds. I let it stay.

All through the summer I watched it reach higher and higher, marking time until it would reach the screens of the back porch. I kept watch over it as it grew. I documented it in photos. I let it grow.

It didn’t bloom. It didn’t produce fruit. It didn’t do much of anything, really, except keep on reaching higher and higher. It stayed the same beautiful green as the day I first spotted it for the longest time, but I knew what to expect, so I kept it safe.

1121160728-1It is higher than the back screen door now and curls around the edge of the back gutter. Just this past week, it has come into its own and completely changed colors…all shades of red and burgundy and even a light pink up near the top. I love it!

I’m celebrating the season. I’m celebrating the life and the growth and the changes. I’m celebrating the choice to deliberately wait for those things to happen. I’m celebrating the choice to allow joy to grow at its own slow pace and keep it safe and to look for it to show up in unexpected places.

Oh, I know. Its just a plant–and a wild one, at that, but it looks like joy to me and I’m celebrating the journey of this year and giving thanks for all God has done as He’s let me grow and kept me safe and waited on me to come into my own a little bit more this year, as well.

Happy Thanksgiving week, y’all! Most things in life don’t show up in their full splendor. It takes some time. It’s a process. Sometimes you’ve got to plan ahead and let the joy grow at its own pace…and give thanks for it all along the way.

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“in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” I Thessalonians 5:18 (NKJV)

Grace and Peace! (and NO COMPLAINTS!!)

Day 18–NCN2016

I rarely watch commercials, so as we were watching a previously recorded show last night and my husband asked if I had seen “that commercial” (as they sped by thanks to the remote control), my answer was a definite “no” regardless of which one he meant.

He paused, backed it up, and we watched the one he wanted. Apparently, he had seen it while on a recent business trip because I’m pretty sure he hasn’t seen it here. We’re both1118160811a-1 fans of the remote control and its fast-forward button. (it gets you back to the game a LOT faster!)

That tiny little interaction has me thinking about life and wondering what else I might have been speeding past…things that are a lot more important than a commercial. What else have I gone “remote control” over and put on hold until I finished this task or that one? What have I outright ignored or just deleted before it finished because I was in a hurry?

1118160811.jpg“You’re spending too much time thinking about crazy stuff!”, you might say and, perhaps you’re right. I’ve been so focused on “getting through until…” lately that I’ve probably missed more than I realized. That changes today. I’m adding another element to my NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER, and you’re welcome to join me in that, too.

In my efforts to “get through” and “get it done”–and not complain about it!–I’ve missed out a little bit. I tend to get so task-focused that I forget to actually “enjoy” sometimes. Am I the only one? I don’t think so. Oh, I’ve taken some time out to have fun this month. I took friends on a picnic and decorated for the season a little bit and I’ve spent more time writing than I have in a while, but I also know that, while I haven’t complained (often!), I also haven’t deliberately enjoyed things as much as I could have, either.

That brings me to this weekend’s challenge: take time to appreciate who and where you are–and who shares life with you! Look for the beauty around you–in nature and in 1118160817.jpgpeople. Take a photo, write a note, drag someone you love out to enjoy it with you or celebrate the beauty all by yourself, but do THAT this weekend instead of remote-controlling your life while you miss out on actually living it.

Thanksgiving is coming up next week and we might as well start practicing for it today!

Grace and Peace! (and NO COMPAINTS!)

*And yes, I did go out and take these pictures while still in my pajamas today just for fun! The colors are even better in person and that late-blooming hydrangea picture had to be taken from my deck because it is higher than my head! (big grin!) Stopping to smell the roses actually happened today and it was worth every single second!