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IMG_20171129_104111525_HDRI transplanted a couple of roses earlier this fall. Actually, I pulled up two that bloomed only once a year with little-to-no scent and replaced them with two that have a much longer blooming season, amazing scent, and a special place in my heart. The new roses have acclimated beautifully and even began to throw some blooms my way late in the season. I’ve been sharing pictures of one of the later blooms with a nearby friend. It’s been too beautiful to keep to myself. She saw it in person at about the third-photo stage.




I told her that it would change colors as it matured, but even though I’ve seen it over and over again, I’m absolutely certain that I didn’t communicate exactly how much the change would be or how much it always delights me to see it happen.

Some things have to be seen to be believed.

This rose (“Rio Samba” by Weeks Roses) changes size, shape, color, and the scent–which they mistakenly call “light”–seems to get a little “louder” the more time it spends on the bush. (kind of like me! Ha!) The late blooming season isn’t unusual for this rose. One year, my mother and I decorated the wedding cake for my Cousin Reyna and covered it up with blooms grown at the corner of my house in Mississippi…on Thanksgiving DAY! (We had to thaw out the water they were held in overnight with a hairdryer, but the blooms–and the cake!–were magnificent!)

Just for your reference, these photos are of the same rose! The first photo was taken on November 15th of this year right after my friend Linda headed back to Mississippi. The final photo was taken on December 3, 2017, once I returned home from my last show of the season. I missed the one where it was covered with snow…because the snow melted almost as quickly as I noticed it and Georgia snow isn’t much for hanging around waiting on me to take my photo op! (grin) Finally, just today, I pulled the spent petals from the bush and flung them into the air where they landed in a perky array of color all around the mulch underneath the rose bush.

I always do that. It’s kind of like making a wish or sending a prayer for more. Flinging the spent, but still colorful petals is pointless to accomplish “the more”, but it always makes me smile…and that’s enough.


As the petals arced upward today, I thought about my recent visit back to Mississippi to see family for an early Christmas. We missed having my husband and my brother with us, but my parents are doing as well as can be expected. It’s only been a few months since I’ve seen them, but the nephews are smarter, taller, and stronger. My sister and brother-in-law remain busy and productive. In short, things are going pretty much as they should be. We’re all getting older and, hopefully, wiser. We’re all changing…and we’re all the same. We still have things to accomplish and though we’re not as young as we used to be, we’re still busy “becoming” what we’re all called to be.

There’s something to be said for that.

Change doesn’t have to be scary. The same God who was in control at Creation is still busy creating. He’s still giving us opportunities for growth and watching over us as we deepen, unfurl our petals, and find our voices. I see the physical changes most in my parents and the nephews, but I know it’s happening in all of us.

Lest you know them and become alarmed, rest easy. The parents are still lively and hysterically funny. They work together to accomplish what needs to be done and continue to bless and encourage others along the way. It’s just easier to see the changes when we’re all seated at the same table these days. Each of us still has work to do and we’re going about it the best we can. The start of a life, the middle, and the winding up of it are all a part of the Plan and the Planner.

No matter what stage you find yourself in today, I hope you’ll join me in praying the verse that’s been posted around our home for over a year. It’s over the sink and on the lamp, by the desk, and in my heart:

“And let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us, And establish the work of our hands for us; Yes, establish the work of our hands.” Psalm 90:17

The sticky notes and the one in my head are from the NKJV translation, but I also want to share the AMPC version with you, as well.


“And let the beauty and delightfulness and favor of the Lord our God be upon us; confirm and establish the work of our hands—yes, the work of our hands, confirm and establish it.” Psalm 90:17 (AMPC)

I hope you view these photos of the changing rose and see some of the same parallels I do with whatever season of life you’re in right now. It’s ALL beautiful! May the beauty, the delightfulness, and the favor of God be rich within you and evident in your own life as He directs the work of your hands today.

“The grass withers, the flower fades, But the word of our God stands forever.” Isaiah 40:8

Grace and Peace!


NCN 2017–Day 27

When I was a child, my cousins and I would always go for a walk after our Thanksgiving feast. We’d kick through crunchy leaves on the ground and chatter about everything from what was going on at our schools to what we wanted to be when we got older. Those were happy times and my walk after this year’s feasting with friends reminded me of that, so I thought I’d share a few of the sights with you to start your week. Remember, God could have made everything in black and white…and I’m so glad He didn’t! Only a few more days left in this year’s NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER! You can do it!!!


“The smell of burning firewood and the molding of organic, earthy substances reminded her of jumping wildly into the enormous leaf piles of autumns past and she suddenly wished that it was appropriate for someone her age to do such a thing.”
― Abby SlovinLetters In Cardboard Boxes


OH, don’t let something silly like age stop you! Go have some fun today! Grace and Peace!

*all photos by Becky Childs



NCN 2017–Day 21

Did you see what day it is?! Day 21! If you’re still working the NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER challenge with us, then you’ve made it for almost THREE WEEKS without complaining! Even if your attempts at it (like mine!) haven’t been perfect, there are only NINE more days to go! You can do this! Truly, you can!

One of the reasons I know you can keep going is because of some of the stories you’ve shared during the past 20 days of this adventure. Spoken words of support, texts with photos, and emails with kind comments–and commiserations!–have helped make this NCN a much easier challenge for me this year. I believe I am most grateful for those words of encouragement that come from some of you who have struggled, but continued onward just the same. Bless you! It is the ONLY way to make a significant change in life: KEEP GOING no matter what!

I was especially touched yesterday when my friend Jody shared the following quote with our Line who originally started the challenge:

“Gratitude and murmuring never abide in the same heart at the same time.” ~ E.M. Bounds

SONY DSCI wholeheartedly approve the quote because it is both appropriate for NCN and also because I know that Jody and her family have also suffered the recent loss of a loved one…and continued on in the challenge. That speaks to me. Hard things don’t automatically mean surrender! In fact, persevering past the thorns in life often brings a sweet reward! I also love this quote because it is a MUCH more elegant rendering of something I have said for years:

“It is impossible to worship and whine at the same time!” ~Becky

God taught me that long ago and, while it usually elicits a laugh when I say it, I’m sure it’s because the stark truth of it strikes a chord with all of us. We have to choose…every single day. Better than that, we GET to choose every single day! (Aside from that, it’s pretty neat to have had a similar line of thought/life lesson as E.M. Bounds! Actually, I’m trying to decide if that puts me in exalted company or just makes him even more of a flawed human. hmmmm…either way…)

God created us to worship Him and bring Him glory, but He wasn’t–and ISN’T!– interested in automaton praise. He wants us to choose gratitude and worship because of our deeply intimate relationship with Him, not just so He can rack up a high score of mindlessly adoring “fans” without true knowledge or personal interaction. He could have decided otherwise, but instead, He allows us to choose our own responses and our own eternity.

What will you choose today? In this week of Thanksgiving, I hope you choose to reach even deeper. I pray that you go beyond NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER and enter into worship of the One Who loves you best and deserves all of our praise. To do that, you need to first choose HIM.

If you’re at all unsure about this most important choosing, please know that nothing could be simpler. You must first acknowledge that there is a perfect God who loves you enough to send His most precious Son–Jesus–to die on a cross so that your sin can be forgiven and you can spend eternity with Him. This offer is free, but critical to where you will spend eternity. Romans 10:9 says,

“If you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.”

It really is that simple. It really is that important. If you’re still unsure or have questions, I would LOVE for you to contact me and let me introduce you to my Jesus. He gives a whole new meaning to NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER and a whole new reason to enter into Thanksgiving.

BTW, whether you’re on Day 1 or Day 21, I’m glad you’re here and I can’t wait to see how God uses your decision not to complain to change us and the world around us! It really does make a difference!

Grace and Peace–and NO COMPLAINTS!

NCN 2017–Day 20

cropped-heartWelcome to Day 20 of NO COMPLAIN NOVEMBER! It’s the week of Thanksgiving and gathering in together to celebrate the blessings of life. To do that properly, we’ll need to turn off the narrative of the world with its relentless push for more and focus on giving thanks for what IS instead of what ISN’T.

Deciding to do that isn’t always easy, but it’s definitely worth it, because what we end up with, then, is an opportunity for contentment. Oh, there’s no doubt that there are many things wrong in the world, but quite a few of them could be fixed if each of us started off recognizing just how blessed we are right now.

“Real contentment must come from within. You and I cannot change or control the world around us, but we can change and control the world within us.” – Warren Wiersbe

Don’t you love that quote?! The problems of the world can threaten to overwhelm and discourage us. Focusing on improving who we are by resolving to become more positive in our outlook and our communications with others is a concrete and achievable goal!  Imagine it: if we all changed the world within US by taking this small step forward, then the world AROUND us would change, as well.

Are you willing to change the world within you? Becoming a person of influence starts with influencing yourself!

Grace & Peace!

NCN 2017–Day 17

I started out looking for quotes about complaining. In case you’re interested, there are actually quite a lot of those. I thought it might be interesting to see what other people had said…and…it was, but something was missing. For all of the quotes I kept wondering what brought them to that point. Was it a passing phase or a desire to encourage? Was it a hallmark of their life or simply a way to fill a page? Motivation makes a difference when you’re trying to do something as monumental as removing negativity from your life. It ought to be about more than just an experiment, don’t you think?

I finally decided  that instead of giving you quotes from people for your weekend I would give you a simple sampling from Scripture. I KNOW what the motivation behind these words is and I KNOW the reason they were written. Because of His great love for us, God wants us to have life. That is more than being successful in material goods or in just getting through without making waves or causing disruptions. He knows that our relationship with Him is critical to our eternal destination, but He’s also profoundly interested in the relationships we have here in this temporary portion of the eternal journey. We’re called to represent the Perfect One…and that’s hard to do while we’re complaining. These words (and there are so many more!) are designed to make this life easier and better for us and help us make it a blessing for those around us so that they’ll want to get to know Him, too.

That’s something I can appreciate, something I want in on, and something I’d like to share.

So, here are a few God-quotes for your weekend. I’ll see you back here on Monday. (AND, yes, I am hoping NCN will be more than just one month out of the year for us. I’m hoping it becomes a lifestyle for all of us.)

Grace and Peace!

“Do all things without grumbling or questioning…” Philippians 2:14 

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29

“Do not grumble against one another, brothers, so that you may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing at the door.” James 5:9

“Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.” 1 Peter 4:9

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

“Do all things without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world…” Philippians 2: 14-15

NCN 2017–Day 16

It is quiet around here today. Really quiet…the kind where you can hear the clock ticking on the mantle from across the room. I am loving it.

I’ve been “peopling” a lot here lately and I have enjoyed the blessing of company and friends who love me. This quiet, though, is a balm to my soul. Even my cat is quiet right now–and that’s rarely the case. We’re both just soaking in the quiet and enjoying the vacation from sound.


In a little bit, I’ll need to move and get busy checking items off my To-Do list (on 3 bright yellow sticky notes so far today, thank you very much, Tuesday Ladies!!). I’ll get things started and go out and “people” again, listen to music, and get things done. I’ll pray as I go and I’ll enjoy every moment…because I’ve already decided to do that. I have decided to be content today.

We can decide, you know. Some people aren’t aware of that and some have forgotten it, but it’s still true.

I pray you’ll be one of the ones who remembers it today. Even more, I pray you’ll be one who chooses to practice it today.

No matter how loud your day gets, I hope there’s a little space of quiet and contentment for you where you can rest from the noise of life and remember that you are loved beyond measure and valued for more than all you manage to accomplish today.

Grace and Peace!

“I have experienced times of need and times of abundance. In any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of contentment…” Philippians 4:12a (NET Bible)



NCN 2017–Day 15

Last night was wonderful! The organizers did such a great job of getting everything in place and I think every woman who attended the Advent Dinner had a spectacular time. The speakers were inspirational and everything else was just lovely. (Can you tell I enjoyed it yet?)

Today has been about enjoying my friend and starting the cleanup process from last night’s event. There are dishes and linens to be washed, Facebook posts and photos to be viewed of everyone all decked out in their finery, and people who need to be appreciated for all of the hard work that went into making it such a great evening for all of us. This part of it is still fun for me, because I get to just enjoy seeing all of these happy faces again and be grateful for such joy to have in my memory.

Today is a good day. All things considered, it’s a restful one. That’s not the case for others I know. They’re dealing with family drama and loss of life. I’m praying for them as I go about setting things in order around here and wishing I could set things to right as easily for them. I think that vast difference in our situations is what made the following passage from Oswald Chambers strike a chord with me as I did a little catch up reading this morning.

“Abraham did not choose the sacrifice….If God has made your cup sweet, drink it with grace; if He has made it bitter, drink it in communion with Him. If the providential order of God for you is a hard time of difficulty, go through with it, but never choose the scene of your martyrdom….” (My Utmost for His Highest, reading for November 11th)

Right now, my cup is sweet, but I’ve had plenty of time with that bitter one. We all have. What I love about this excerpt is that we’ll all find ourselves somewhere in it, but it is our attitude toward life as a whole that will make the difference.

Complaining can lead us toward martyrdom–even when we (or others) feel we might have justification. Please know that I’m aware mourning is both necessary and legitimate, but even the way we mourn and lament the losses in our lives can be without complaint. It is in our communion with God that we can find solace even in the hard things.


For my friends facing difficult situations or dealing with loss today, I am praying comfort and peace. I hope that the remembered grace of the sweet days and the hope found in Christ will carry you through until we’re together again. There is joy on the other side of this trying time.

For the rest of us, I’m praying that the gift of this good day will compel us to move forward in grace and compassion for those less fortunate and that we’ll both share the joy of it and drink it in with the sweet communion of Christ just the same.

Grace and Peace!