What are you waiting for?

Waiting. I’ve yet to meet anyone who loves it…or doesn’t have to do it. We fuss about it and, yet, can’t actually live without it. Outside of Genesis and the garden of Eden, life just doesn’t happen without some waiting, and even there, God still took His time. We don’t like it, but waiting might actually be one of God’s most under-rated gifts to us. In any case, He makes us wait on a regular basis and as one of my favorite quotes reminds me, “God never plows unless He purposes a crop.” While we are often frustrated with the painful plowing, we are probably least fond of the waiting on the crop to arrive. (That’s not just me, right?)

God seems to be trying to teach me something about waiting as I search for more margin in my life because the subject keeps coming back up in my Bible study homework, in conversation with friends, and, today, in a book of essays about doing life well and, because of all of this focus on waiting, even in the movie we chose to watch tonight.

I’m pretty sure that we’ve all made some variation of the following statement: “If I can just get/do/accomplish _____, then I’ll be/feel _____.” All of our fill-in-the-blanks are different, of course, but the sentiment is still the same. We all believe that there’s more to be done before we can fully enjoy the now.

We’re wrong about that.

“NOW” is what we’re actually here for. NOW is when we can love on people, help make a difference, or just relax and enjoy the moment and have a chat with the Almighty. Since we can’t go back and do the past over and we have no guarantee of the future, NOW is what we have to work with. Naturally, there’s a significant link between NOW and Margin.

What I do NOW matters and affects whether or not I’ll actually have Margin later. Take today for instance. It was a pajama day for me. Maybe you call them something else at your house, but the whole point was to relax and just stay in the house. I try to have one on a pretty regular basis. We read, cleaned, straightened, organized, made good food, caught up on a couple of TV shows we like, updated our budget, watched a movie, and took a nap. It was a VERY good day and, once it started to wind down, we talked about our mutual sense of accomplishment in just taking it easy as we worked our way through all of these tasks that, in and of themselves aren’t very important, but whose collective whole have a tendency to make our lives just “better” when we do them.

We also talked about how much better we feel when we take care of ourselves in these simple ways. They make us more relaxed and put us in better positions to take on the bigger things we’ll face in the days ahead. They give us space to enjoy the moments NOW, energy to face the moments to come, and the comfort of knowing we’re better prepared for whatever else those moments bring.

As I’ve been typing here, I’ve also had an old song running through my brain,

“Be strong in the Lord” by Linda Lee Johnson.

1 Be strong in the Lord, and be of good courage;
Your mighty Defender is always the same.
Mount up with wings, as the eagle ascending;
Vict’ry is sure when you call on His name.

Be strong, be strong, be strong in the Lord;
And be of good courage, for He is your guide.
Be strong, be strong, be strong in the Lord;
And rejoice for the vict’ry is yours.

2 So put on the armor the Lord has provided,
And place your defense in his unfailing care.
Trust Him for He will be with you in battle,
Lighting your path to avoid every snare. [Refrain]

3 Be strong in the Lord, and be of good courage;
Your mighty Commander will vanquish the foe.
Fear not the battle for the vict’ry is always His;
He will protect you wherever you go. [Refrain]

I think there’s a definite link between having the courage to choose living in the NOW, Margin, and waiting on God to show us the next thing He’s got in mind for us. Some of us might have missed that as we’ve rushed or worried our way through our NOWs in our haste to avoid the wait God has installed to teach us lessons that might actually make us more prepared for what He has waiting when we get there. Let’s not do that anymore, ok?

Find your margin in the NOW and let God lead you toward confidently trusting Him more today. Take courage, be strong in the Lord…and make a point of doing what you can to enjoy whatever wait God has you in right now. He already knows the plan, so it stands to reason, He knows why the wait is right for us, as well.

What are YOU waiting for?! (grin) Look for ways to add margin while you wait!

Wait for and confidently expect the LordBe strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for and confidently expect the Lord.”  Psalm 27:14 (AMP) 

Grace and Peace!



Waiting rooms aren’t much fun. I know. I’m in one right now. There are few seats left in this one and yet more and more arrivals.

I hear the sounds of lots of cheerful conversation going on around me as I type.

A quick scanning of the faces tells me that not everyone is cheerful. Some of these faces are worried. Some are thoughtful or introspective in appearance. There are a lot of cell phones out for updates and games, emails, work…but mainly, they’re out for distraction.

No one likes to wait. Even when you’re used to it. No one.

My own odd entertainment comes as I type this and receive a text from a friend in another state–and another hospital!–to me know that they are prepped…and waiting. (Insert a very small wry grin here!) God is funny that way sometimes​.

We’re all waiting for something. Whether you’re in a hospital or not doesn’t make much of a difference in that. Answers to emails, phone calls, or prayers; waiting for the weekend, the vacation, or just for the coffee to make or the microwave ding, waiting happens to all of us.

So, what do we do with that? What can we learn and share? What can we accomplish while we wait? The answers are as varied as the individual.

I choose to pray and be reminded of this:

“But those who wait on the Lord
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 (NKJV)

Grace and Peace while you wait today!


Potential“but when the fullness of time had come…”  Galatians 4:4 (KJV)

“But when the set time had fully come…” Galatians 4:4 (NIV)

“But when the right time finally came…” Galatians 4:4 (GNT)

No matter what translation of Scripture I’m reading, I love those words written by the Apostle Paul about the timing of the birth of Jesus…the One I call Savior. That makes them special. They were written after about 400 years of silence from God…yes, that’s right! That deliberate silence from God meant 400 years of waiting time for God’s people. It can’t have been easy. People came and went on this planet. They lived whole lives never knowing what we know now. They had no other choice but to wait. That sounds really harsh, doesn’t it? (Don’t worry about my offending God with that statement…He knows.)

Those words tell me that everything was finally in place for every single prophecy (over 300 of them!) about the Promised Messiah to finally begin to come true. They also tell me that

  • God was in charge back then just like He is now.
  • He has a plan and it is for my good–and yours!
  • He was particular about the details of the plan on purpose.
  • There were people who needed to be in the right places and in the right positions before the plan would work like it was supposed to work.

Those words carry hope. They cradle the thought that God had been busy on our behalf and was finally through preparing our Best Blessing ever…and that timing was EVERYTHING in order for it to actually BE the best blessing ever. Important words. Instructive words…

Those words also make me crazy sometimes–especially when they apply to MY life today because I’m not always the world’s best wait-er! (Who is?!) As an adult, I totally understand the need for waiting…I just don’t always fully embrace the concept personally! (You, either?! ha! Imagine that!)

What I do know, however, is that the same list of statements under my first paragraph are just as true today for MY life as they were when God was waiting to bring His Son into the world to save us…and those details that we’re all waiting to fall into place in our individual lives today? Well, once He has those in place in a way that will bless us best or teach us most, our wait will be over about whatever we’re praying over or holding our breath on now, as well.

Whether His answer is a “Yes!” or a “No!” or a comically rhetorical”What were you thinking when you asked Me that?! (because, YES, God has a sense of humor and sometimes I think we’re allowed to see the possibilities without the pain as a way to grow us up a bit!)…whatever it is that He’s chosen for your answers and my answers, it will be just what we’ve needed all along.

Welcome to the Advent Adventures!




Several years ago I was talking with friends and sharing some of the details of my life.  Apparently, I made the following statement as I did so:  “You can’t surprise God.”

Several weeks later, I received a call from one of the friends.  She told me that she’d been thinking about something I’d shared and she had a really big problem with it.  I asked her to continue.  Her response:  “You said that we can’t surprise God!  I’m not sure I’m comfortable with that!  I like the idea that I am free to make up my own mind and my own decisions on the spur of the moment.  I’m not sure I like the idea of a God who already knows how I’m going to think/decide/respond to things that I haven’t even had happen yet.”

I laughed.  (Yes, I know.  It probably wasn’t really nice of me to do that.)

I laughed because I knew just how she felt, but it didn’t change anything—and I told her that.  God DOES know…and frankly, that’s one of the things I find most comforting about Him.

I don’t serve a God who has to run through multiple options to help me choose the right thing at any given time.  I have a God who KNOWS.  I have a God who is already prepared for me and my questions, my concerns and my mis-steps.  Since He already knows the back story details and all of the future options I will face in addition to the current jumble of questions running through my mind, He doesn’t have to be delayed in His responses to me.  He can guide me in the way that He has chosen as best for me.

Oh, trust me, I’ve taken the other road often enough to know that He didn’t create automatons who are here to simply follow Him blindly.  I’ve also taken the right ones…even the uncomfortable right ones…enough to trust that He always has my best interest at heart.

As we talked I was reminded of all the times God had allowed me the time to process things that He already knew so that I would become more adept at reading His will.  I was reminded of all the ways I could see Him more clearly because I’ve had experience recognizing His fingerprints in my world and the almost neon-like road posts He places to guide us in the right directions.

I find that I am especially grateful for that today.  I need His answers and I love that He not only knows that, but that He’s prepared the very questions that I’m asking!  He’s molding my thought processes and He’s working to make me more like His Son.  He’s in control…and the best part of it all:  He does all of this because He loves me!

No, we can’t surprise God, but He’s in the business of surprising us all the time.  The next time you’re unsure of what you should do, ask Him to open your eyes to see all the ways He’s already prepared the right path ahead of you in order to make it easier in your future.  You just might be surprised at what YOU see!


God is truly entertaining!  Over the past 48 hours, I’ve had 5 different conversations about waiting.  It seems that everyone I know is waiting on something:  people, events, opportunities, ideas, answers…God.

Yes, that’s what it all boils down to:  we’re waiting on God.

Psalm 27:14 (NKJV) has this to say about how we should wait:

Wait on the Lord;
Be of good courage,
And He shall strengthen your heart;
Wait, I say, on the Lord!

Several other translations have in the words “be strong and take heart” in them.  The concept is the same regardless of which words are used…and just as difficult to live out.

I also made the shocking discovery in each of the 5 conversations that we are universally bad “wait-ers”–and most of us are not that interested in getting better at it!  You know it is true!  The thing that makes me laugh and love Him even more, however, is that God has surrounded us with people who are having the same struggle and we have the opportunity to support each other, pray for each other…and yes, commiserate with each other while we wait!  Once again, He proves that He is a God of grace by not only providing us with His Spirit to comfort us, but by actually giving us people who can relate to our struggle while we wait.  We are not alone!

I think that’s a most gracious gift, because the only thing worse than having to wait is waiting by yourself.  No matter what YOU are waiting on today, know that you are in good company, that you are loved by God and that He really does have all the answers–the right ones!–and those are always worth the wait!

Wait on the Lord;
Be of good courage,
And He shall strengthen your heart;
Wait, I say, on the Lord!

Surprise, Surprise, Surprise!

Are you ready for something really shocking?  My life isn’t all about me after all!  Yes!  You read that right!

Guess what else?  Your life isn’t all about you, either.

I’ve had this little reminder handed to me up close and personal over the past couple of weeks as I sat and shared life with some people who are dealing with some pretty hefty issues.

I could listen with empathy because I’VE BEEN THERE!  I know what some of that stuff feels like and, truthfully, sometimes it just stinks.  There’s no other way to put it.  Sometimes God chooses to do things in ways that we would never choose for ourselves.  When that happens we actually do get a choice about part of it.  We get to choose our response.  We can choose to learn or we can choose to leave.

Now, don’t get me wrong…once you belong to God, you can’t ever get away from Him, but you can definitely choose to leave the situation you find yourself in and just run away.  The problem with that is that God’s still going to be right there and since He’s still determined to teach you the things that will make you more like His Son, chances are pretty good that you’ll just find yourself in a similar situation wherever you land.  Not sure I’m right about that?  Think:  Jonah and a very big fish.  (grin) You can’t ever outrun God; so really, if you run, you’re just choosing to delay the lesson.  That, too, is a choice.

Our other choice is that we can choose to learn.  Sometimes that means taking action.  Sometimes that means just sitting still until we’re certain that God is moving us.  Sometimes it means we just need to listen to others who have been there before us and come out on the other side…or at least are a little further along in dealing with it all.

Personally, I’m one of those who usually learns by doing things myself… the hard way.  That means listening isn’t generally my strong suit, but that doesn’t mean I’m not called to do just that occasionally.  When I’m smart enough to do things His way, I have found that there really was a purpose behind it all.  Sometimes, however, we may not see the purpose for a long, long time.

That’s just one of the things I realized during those conversations with my friends.  I realized that sometimes we may go through things just so we’ll understand what it is like when others go through them.  People need to have a safe place to be real.  They need an open heart and a person on the other end who can help them realize that (a) they’re not crazy–it really is that hard and (b) they’re not alone.  They also need to know that it is possible to get to the other side of an issue and even when that’s not possible…or at least takes a very long time…it is possible to survive it, anyway.

I realized something else this week, as well.  I know that I went through those hard situations that my friends now face for more than one reason, but if being able to share our common bond and let them know they aren’t alone was the only reason for my own difficulty, then it would still be worth it.  God loves us all enough to provide the what and the who we need as we need them.  It is always worth it to be used by Him.

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort which we ourselves are comforted by God.”  2 Corinthians 1:3-4

“In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a litle while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith, being much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”  1 Peter 1:6-7

Get ready to put your hard lessons to use for the Kingdom!  It’s time to be Jesus with skin on for someone around you today!  Someone out there needs what you already know…and they need to know WHO you know, as well.


I’m one of those people who like to have a plan.  I’m a planner.  I can generally process information pretty quickly, see several different angles, choose a direction based on the information and formulate a workable plan with minimal delay.

That all works pretty well right up until you get a glitch in THAT plan….the planning plan.

The glitch is especially monumental if it happens right in the first step.  Getting accurate information is absolutely crucial to planning.  It’s what you base everything else on, so you’ve got to start there…and that’s where my problem lies.

My posts have been sporadic over the last two weeks because we’ve been dealing with some health issues here.  They are “serious, but manageable” according to those we’ve seen.  They have a plan.  WE are not entirely sure what it is yet.  That makes it tougher to follow.

Oh, we know some of the basics and we’ve been doing the things we know, but my “planning brain” is more than a bit frustrated by the relative slowness of the necessary information as it trickles in to us.  Others who have traveled this same path say we’re “right on schedule” and that we should “relax.”

Ever notice how hard it is to “relax” when you have people telling you to do so?

This isn’t worry.  I know what that looks like.  This a processing issue that makes my brain feel like someone keeps pressing the pause button…kind of like what would happen when we watched our movies on tapes that still made the picture jump a bit even after you hit the pause button…it wants to go forward but something keeps holding it back so the picture looks wonky onscreen.  I’m feeling a bit of sympathy for those old tapes now.

Realistically, I’m aware that the ones who DO have the information are not holding back on purpose just to frustrate me.  I’m aware that the calendar…the very number of hours in a day…are limited and that is simply isn’t possible for us to see all of the ones we’ll need to see, have them review the information of their various areas of expertise and make a plan specifically for us based on that information before getting back to us with their part of it.  I’m aware that there are more of them than there are of us…and I’m extremely aware that we’re not their only concern.  There are others waiting and depending on their plan, as well.

I’m aware of all those things…and it doesn’t do a thing to help me process and proceed with a plan for us.  I’m going to have to wait.  Waiting isn’t my forte.  In fact, I have never excelled at waiting and I really have no desire to get better at it!  I want to know NOW.  (Anyone else out there recognize themselves here, too?)

Times like this require me to look at the larger plan…the one that I already DO know about…the one my God has had in place since time began:

“For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for well-being, and not for calamity, in order to give you a future and a hope.”  Jeremiah 29:11 (ISV, 2012)

THAT is what lets me not worry.  That is what helps me relax (even if it only feels like just a little bit, right now).  I know the One with the ultimate plan.  I guess I can wait on the rest for now.